Authors : Dr. Mona Ghazi Sayegh

Volume/Issue : Volume 9 - 2024, Issue 6 - June

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DOI : https://doi.org/10.38124/ijisrt/IJISRT24JUN1485

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Abstract : Many factors come into play when one decides to delve deep into the intriguing network of secrets and their potential impact on us. A major element is the nature of secrets which can be classified as having negative or positive valence, being harmful or harmless, leading to debilitation or not, among other classifications. What determines how to handle secrets - whether to conceal or reveal them- is also based on social contexts, psychological states, mental awareness, personal reimbursements, the ratio of benefits to costs, and the degree of intimacy between the sharer and receiver as well as the repercussions of this sharing on both. However, studies have shown many drawbacks of keeping secrets that cannot be ignored if one cares about well-being.

Keywords : Secrets; Concealment; Disclosure; Intimacy; Mental Health; Catharsis.

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